On Buddhas, cats, ducks and mentorship in the nonprofit sector
One of the things I'm most grateful for in my life is my Mother Duck, Lisa Hoffman, who wrote the short essay below. She's my Mother Duck because I'm one of her ducklings, a small group of development professionals she has chosen to informally mentor. I am so blessed to have her wisdom, compassion and friendship in my life. Having Lisa as a mentor, and the rest of the ducks for peer support, is the secret to any success I have, both professionally and personally.
Lisa is one of San Francisco Bay Area's top nonprofit resource development consultants with more than 20 years experience. She has also been a Zen Buddhist practitioner for the past 11 years, and was lay ordained at San Francisco Zen Center in 2000. She is now training to become a Zen priest through the Russian River Zendo. You should also know that she is a cat lover, believing that all cats are reincarnated Zen masters. She can be reached at lisahoffman9 [at]sbcglobal[dot]net.
The executive director's voice on the phone was desperate. "We need to avoid a funding crisis and our planning meeting is in five days. Can you help us?" Her nonprofit protects the frail elderly from abuse.As fundraising professionals, we help people give back to their communities everyday by connecting their values with nonprofit missions that matter to them. Mentoring a young person coming into this field is one of the best ways that we in turn can give back to our own community. Please consider adopting a duckling into your own life, and help open doors that were once opened for you.
This call reminded me why I believe that you and all of us who have made a commitment to the nonprofit community are Bodhisattvas, a Buddhist term.
A Bodhisattva vows to help everyone in the world become enlightened before she reaches enlightenment. Does the magnitude of this commitment feel familiar? What is your nonprofit's mission? To eradicate poverty, build social justice, cure cancer? Fulfilling our missions is challenging, if not impossible -- as is the vow to enlighten all beings.
How can we renew ourselves as we work to make the impossible happen on a daily basis?
Where do we find the energy to face intractable social ills while seeking to change a self-destructive culture?
These are questions I have explored for the many years of my nonprofit career. As a young development director and now a consultant, I have often felt depleted by the demands of the commitment I have made to my community. Beginning a meditation practice more than a decade ago has slowly pointed me toward a self-renewal that is grounded in commonsense and inspiration.
For a Bodhisattva, energy lays in the vow itself and its day-to-day fulfillment. Focusing only on the outcome -- enlightening all beings -- is daunting, to say the least. Feeling that I am not done until my nonprofits mission is fulfilled is similarly exhausting. What is an action-minded person to do?
We could try sitting down.
Meditating, usually with my cat purring in my lap, has gradually developed my ability to meet the person or activity in front of me. This is the fulfillment of my commitment to the nonprofit community. And it is this moment-to-moment engagement against the backdrop of mission that revitalizes me.
Sometimes, when I stop and breathe for a moment, it even fills me with wonder. And gratitude. I remember that I am offering healing to this hurting world. I can make a difference.
This doesn't mean there is no stress, or that planning is no longer needed. There will still be overwhelming amounts of work, political defeat, or trying to help a homeless family with a heartbreaking story and few resources. During these times and always, renewal lies in our vow and the next simple act of its fulfillment. I said yes to that executive director.
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3 Comments:
Hi Gayle,
I found your blog on the Non Profit Blog exchange roster and read the most recent story with great interest. I'm a mentor to many and often reenergize myself by meditating informally as part of a process of generating new ideas.
I also focus on mentoring as a mission and strategy of the Tutor/Mentor Connection, based in Chicago and at http://tutormentor.blogspot.com.
I mentor on three levels
a) I lead a site based tutor/mentor program that connects 70-80 inner city teens in one-on-one and group mentoring with about 100 workplace volunteers
(http://www.cabriniconnections.net)
b) I mentor other tutor/mentor programs and people starting programs, using the internet, a May and November Conference (http://www.tutormentorconference.bigstep.com)
c) and I mentor business, foundations, faith leaders, and everyone else who needs to be involved if tutor/mentor programs are to be successfully operating in all of the poverty neighborhoods of big cities of America and the world. I use my blog, my participating in online forums like
http//www.socialedgbe.org, http://www.omidyar.net and non profit blog exchanges, as part of this strategy.
In all of these efforts I point to information libraries that show where poverty is most concentrated, and that show the way some people are solving these problems in some locations which could be duplicated in other donations if leaders knew of the ideas and had the resources to implement the ideas.
I'm hosting a conference on Nov. 30 and as you can read at http:// nonprofitblogexchange.blogspot.com , I'm hoping to recruit people who will blog this topic in the next six weeks so that we not only share the ideas, but we motivate holiday and year end donors to give more to youth serving organizations all over the world.
If you or any of your network of mentors are interested, please write about this and send me the link to stories you write.
Thank you.
Dan Bassill
Tutor/Mentor Connection
Chicago
Hi Dan,
Thank you so very much for all the work you are doing to help mentor the next generation, helping them succeed in the world! For nearly 40 years I was informally looking for a mentor, and now that I have one, I've become a stronger advocate for others to consider developing a similar relationship.
One group I work with provides paid coaches to its clients as mentors, but it seems to me that one of the critical pieces is that it be voluntary-based, like you advocate. I've also found the peer relationships that I've developed with Lisa's other mentees just as valuable, because it has become a support network with various people for whom I can go to support.
All my best, and do keep in touch.
Peace,
Gayle
One of our volunteers has created a video that talks about the
Tutor/Mentor Leadership Conference. The link is:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f8pqrFrhjUc
This type of video,just like blogs, could have been created by volunteers in many parts of the country.
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